Do you ever feel as though you don’t enough hours in the day?
Are you forever dropping things from your to-do list because you simply do not have the time?
Sorry, stupid questions! Of course, the answer is yes.
So, in this post, I’m going to tell you exactly why you ‘don’t have time.’
I recently suggested an activity to a friend of mine. Although she was happy with the suggestion, she responded with, “but I don’t have time for that.”
I quickly said, “that’s just an excuse”, which propelled her to defend herself.
She stated that it wasn’t an excuse and that she genuinely didn’t have the time.
However, if I had said to her, “drive 2.5-hours north tomorrow afternoon and go to this address, someone will give you £1million”, do you think she would tell me that she didn’t have the time?
Of course not.
If, god forbid it, a close family member of hers had a terrible accident and was admitted into hospital, do you think that she would tell me that she didn’t have time to go visit?
Again, of course not.
‘I don’t have time’ is the phrase we use instead of saying ‘that’s not important to me right now.’
Which is OK.
Whatever my suggestion was, it might not have been important to her. She may have had other things of greater importance or had already committed her time elsewhere.
It’s YOUR time
Everyone has 24-hours in a day, regardless if you are rich or poor, living in New York or South Africa, and we are fortunate enough to have the free will to decide how we use those hours.
Your happiness, health, and wealth are greatly dependent upon what you do in those 24-hours.
Time is the most valuable commodity we have. And although we can’t control it, we can’t speed it up, slow it down, or stop it, we can choose what we do with it.
If someone said to me, “Do you want to come and see this show with me tomorrow?” I would probably say that I don’t have time because it’s not important to me.
And that there is the key…
You get to choose what you spend your time on.
If you say that you don’t have time for something but you’re sat at home every evening watching TV from 7-10pm, then what you’re really saying is that watching those 3 hours of TV every night (which is 15 hours per week by the way!) is more important to you than whatever it is you don’t have time for.
So before saying, ‘I don’t have time,’ ask yourself how important is the activity or opportunity. Is it going to improve your health, wealth, and/or happiness? And is it a better use of your time compared to other activities that you have planned?
This leads us nicely into talking about consequences because even though it’s YOUR time and you get to choose how you spend it, there are consequences to every action.
You might say that you don’t have time for something because you have to go to work. This is very valid because if you don’t go to work, you won’t get paid, and then you may not be able to pay for the necessities you need to survive.
- If you don’t go to the gym, your health and fitness levels may drop and you may gain weight.
- If you don’t wash your clothes, they’ll forever be dirty and smelly.
- If you don’t pick your child up from school, he/she will be sat waiting for you.
You can, of course, outsource and delegate some important must-do tasks to other people, for example washing your clothes or cleaning your house, but you can’t do that with every task. There are some tasks that you need to be in attendance for, after all, you can’t pay someone else to go to the gym for you.
What’s the point of this section?
My point is that there are activities that we must make time for because if we don’t, they can have severe consequences. Going to work might not be the most important thing in your life, but the consequences of not going can be far too great.
When you procrastinate on something, you’re simply demonstrating that the task isn’t that important to you.
Using a similar example as above, if you had to meet someone and hand over a 500-word written essay in return for £1million, do you think you would procrastinate over the essay? Would it be sat on your desk for weeks waiting to be finished? Or would you have it done and dusted in a jiffy?
My point exactly.
Procrastinating on a task is the same as saying, ‘this task is not important to me right now.’
You cannot do everything
This is the main problem; you simply cannot do everything there is to do, so it’s okay to declare that you ‘don’t have time’ for some activities.
The key is to really think about where your time is going. Are you making the best use of your time?
The worst mistake is to use ‘I don’t have time’ as a get-out-of-jail-free card for things that you really should be making time for, such as your health.
Listening to people claim that they don’t have time to eat healthily or exercise regularly as their percentage of body fat increases is almost ironic because they’re literally shortening their lifespan.
So, what it is it that you have so little time for? And is what you are currently spending your time on, a better use of your time?
P.S. I really didn’t mean to do another post on time. I started typing and this is what came out. I may need to see someone about this 😅. I’ll try not to do it again.
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